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Jul 12

Heroes: Vol 1. Issue 1. “Heroes aren’t born; they are MADE.”

By shaydawkins | Mental & Emotional Health

Heroes aren’t born; they are made. A hero is very self-aware and emotionally intelligent. They are self-aware enough to realize their strengths, weaknesses, and imperfectness (most importantly). A hero sacrifices for the greater good of those associated with them, especially the ones they love. They sacrifice their self-pride in the sense they will many times “over produce” in their work yet not receive the credit they are due. When this situation occurs, they may find themselves feeling down for a moment (because they are human), but they always re-focus and find the courage to keep pushing. They keep pushing because they know “the push” further builds their character and mental fortitude. Frankly, they enjoy strengthening their character and mental fortitude because this enables their power to grow stronger. Their adversary, discouragement, stands no chance because they have an unwavering faith in themselves; this great faith may be shaken, but is never shattered.

A hero looks forward to the challenge of being treated UNFAIRLY, especially when it conjures up their adversary, Wrath, to come knock on their door. (BANG! BANG! BANG!) “Hero, you have been forsaken. Can you believe they have done this to you? You can cut them to their core with your knowledgeable and insightful words. Give them what they deserve! DO IT! (Wrath knocks again) BANG! BANG! BANG! Crush them hero! We both know your words will surely destroy them! They are wrong, and you are right; we both know this!” A true hero enjoys this challenge because they understand this is a GREAT opportunity to further build their patience. They know that great patience blended with a relentless work ethic is a “magical blend” that grows their powers exponentially. Before allowing Wrath to control them (because a hero will get quite angry at times), they will hit the “pause button” and self-reflect. Self-reflection enables them to rememeber that even though they have the power to destroy others, they must not allow Wrath to consume them. They know Wrath loves to destroy, and that Wrath will ultimately destroy them via robbing them of their own internal peace.

A superhero is enabled to use “wrongs done to them” and adversity, in general, as an opportunity to BUILD, not destroy. A superhero not only forgives, but consciously forgets (in most instances). They do this because they are aware that “holding on to wrongs” doesn’t enable them to FLY (First Love Yourself); oh, and we all know that superheroes love to FLY. They forgive when the other party was ninety-nine percent in the wrong. They forgive in this situation because they know it’s best for all parties involved to clear the air. They understand they are the only one who has attained the STRENGTH to say, “I’m sorry,” and enable all involved to move forward. This is an example of the great RESPONSIBILITY that comes with the GREAT POWER bestowed upon a superhero. To be continued…

This is Issue 1 of the Hero Series. New adversaries, new powers, and new challenges will be revealed in future issues. Be sure to follow the blog so that you will be notified when the next episode is released. If you would like to get way ahead of the game and begin awakening the superhero within you right now, then check out my book, iSin: Upgrade To Life 2.0iSin specializes in showing you how to tap into the GREAT POTENTIAL residing within you, by revealing practical ways to generate and dwell in SUPERNATURAL EMOTIONS. Furthermore, iSin not only reveals the true enemies of us all, SINFUL EMOTIONS, but also shows you how to use these sinful emotions for your benefit.

A hero realizes sinful emotions, but a superhero has the ability to manipulate and use sinful emotions in beneficial ways! –Shay Dawkins

Jul 09

Salvation: How is it attained?

By shaydawkins | Redifining Religion

As referenced in the first article of the Redefining Religion series, Refining the Concept of God, God is unseen, supernatural, and resides within. As discussed in that article, God represents positive, supernatural emotions. Every individual is capable of accessing these positive, supernatural emotions because every individual is capable of “changing their thoughts” at any second. With that being said, “accessing positive emotions” for a moment and “living in positive emotions” in the long-term are two totally different things. “Living in positive emotions” directly ties into the concept of “attaining salvation” or “being saved.” So, how is salvation attained?

Simply put, salvation is attained when one commits to having a “LOVING RELATIONSHIP with ONESELF.” As laid out below in Jesus’s MOST IMPORTANT COMMANDMENT, one must choose to LOVE one’s HEART (the “desire-decisions” that establish who one really is), SOUL (one’s unique personality), MIND (one’s logic and reasoning skills to reach balanced conclusions), and STRENGTH (one’s force to overcome).

Jesus’s ONE Most Important Commandment

Jesus has ONE most important commandment. With the understanding that God dwells within, this concept is simple to grasp yet a little more elusive to fully understand. To more fully understand this concept, check out my book, iSin: Upgrade To Life 2.0, because it is essentially a 60,000+ word in-depth yet practical guideline (written from first-hand experiences and comprehensive research over 6 years) on “how to truly love yourself.”

The original text of the New Testament was written in Greek. I’ve cited the original Greek words along with a brief definition in the parentheses beside the English words (HEART, SOUL, MIND, and STRENGTH) that replaced them in our modern day Bibles. The section below the following verse entitled, “Loving God Is Ultimately Loving You, Your Inner Self,” lists the full definition of these Greek words, and annotates the source I used to find these definitions. I feel by defining the Greek words, the Bible was originally written in, enables the Verse to be more thoroughly understood.

Mark 12: (28-31) NIV
28One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?”
29“The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one.30Love the Lord your God (God dwells WITHIN) with all your HEART (Kardia: “desire-decisions” that establish who we really are; mind, character, inner self) and with all your SOUL (Psuché: your unique personality) and with all your MIND (Dianoia: thoughts; to use thorough REASONING SKILLS to reach balanced conclusions) and with all your STRENGTH (Ischus: force to overcome; strength).’31The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is NO COMMANDMENT greater than these.” 


Loving GOD is Ultimately Loving You, Your Inner Self!

Your INNER Self = Your UNSEEN Self (Your Thoughts and Your Emotions)

Kardia: desire-decisions that establish who we really are, mind, character, inner self, will, and INTENTIONS
2588kardía – heart; “the affective center of our being” and the capacity of moral preference (volitional desire, choice; see P. Hughs, 2 Cor, 354); “desire-producer that makes us tick” (G. Archer), i.e. our “desire-decisions” that establish who we really are.
[Heart (2588 /kardía) is mentioned over 800 times in Scripture, but never referring to the literal physical pump that drives the blood. That is, “heart” is only used figuratively (both in the OT and NT.]
NASB Word Usage
heart (102), heart’s (1), hearts (49), mind (2), minds (1), quick (1), spirit (1).

Psuché: (a) the vital breath, breath of life, (b) the human soul, (c) the soul as the seat of affections and will, (d) the self, (e) a human person, an individual.
5590psyxḗ (from psyxō, “to breathe, blow” which is the root of the English words “psyche,” “psychology”) – soul (psyche); a person’s distinct identity (unique personhood), i.e. individual personality.
5590 (psyxē) corresponds exactly to the OT 5315 /phágō (“soul”). The soul is the direct aftermath of God breathing (blowing) His gift of life into a person, making them an ensouled being.
NASB Word Usage
heart (2), heartily (1), life (36), lives (7), mind (1), minds (1), person (1), persons (3), soul (33), souls (14), suspense* (1), thing (1).

Dianoia: thoughts; to use thorough reasoning skills to reach balanced conclusions
1271diánoia (from 1223 /diá, “thoroughly, from side-to-side,” which intensifies 3539 /noiéō, “to use the mind,” from 3563 /noús, “mind”) – properly, movement from one side (of an issue) to the other to reach balanced-conclusions; full-orbed reasoning (= critical thinking), i.e. dialectical thinking that literally reaches “across to the other side” (of a matter).
1271 /diánoia (“critical thinking”), literally “thorough reasoning,” incorporates both sides of a matter to reach a meaningful (personal) conclusion. Such “full-breadth reasoning” is essential to loving (25 /agapáō) the Lord and our neighbor (see Mk 12:30). It is also the instrument of self-destruction when exercised without God’s light and power (Lk 1:51; Eph 2:3, 4:18; Col 1:21).
NASB Word Usage
mind (7), minds (2), thoughts (1), understanding (2)

Ischus: force to overcome, strength
2479isxýs (from the Gk root is, “force” and 2192/exō, “have”) – properly, force to overcoming immediate resistance.
NASB Word Usage
might (5), power (1), strength (4).

In conclusion, I’d love to hear your thoughts regarding the material discussed. Whether you agree or disagree is irrelevant because Intellectual Rebel is a hub of open discourse. So, I urge you to voice your unique thoughts or just comment with a simple  “agree,” “disagree,” or “somewhere in between.” Thank you and have a blessed day!

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Jul 09

Improve Your EQ!

By shaydawkins | Mental & Emotional Health

Raise your hand if you have problems!
(My right hand is raised)!

Raise your hand if you would like to become BETTER, RIGHT NOW!
(My left hand is raised!)

Raise your hand if you would like to help those you love not only fix their problems, but would like to enable them to find the soul source to solve all of their problems!
(AYYYYYY!! Both of my hands are raised to the SKY!!!)

We all as human beings deal with EMOTIONS; there are GOOD EMOTIONS that enable you to be strong, tap into YOUR GREAT POTENTIAL (some might say “God”), and live in your LOVE (LIGHT); on the contrary, there are SINFUL(BAD) EMOTIONS that only will weaken you, hinder you, and take you into DARKNESS (MISERY or SORROW)! Improving your EQ or emotional intelligence is essential for our growth as individuals. Before going any further, I strongly want to iterate that “believing in God or not believing in God” does not change the FACT that we all (as human beings) will face struggles and obstacles via being challenged by our own natural, sinful emotions! BOTH the religious and the atheist, BOTH the liberal and the conservative, BOTH the student and the teacher, BOTH the rich man and the poor man, BOTH the man and the woman, and BOTH the white man and the black man are all challenged by sinful emotions.

The Power of Your Thoughts

This battle has waged and will always wage in all of our own minds via the thoughts we choose to think! Ready to WIN? READY to REALIZE your GREAT POTENTIAL so that you may UNLEASH IT–not only for YOU, but for those YOU LOVE?! Your love, hope, happiness, peace, joy, and fulfillment are all at hand right now.

Here is a quick example of the power of your thoughts in that you can internally (emotionally) have whatever you want, right now:

Want ANGER? Think of something that makes you angry. Think of someone who did you wrong. Want to feel REALLY ANGRY? Keep dwelling on what made you ANGRY. FEED the ANGER by CONINUOUSLY THINKING of ALL THE WRONG that has been done to you. Now, STOP! Remember how you feel right now. Now, SWITCH your thoughts by thinking of something that makes you feel good. THINK of something you are APPRECIATIVE for. THINK of someone you are THANKFUL for and say, “Thank you,” to that person in your mind; say “Thank you” again to that person, and begin to FEEL the LOVE you FEEL TOWARDS that person. FEED the THANKFULNESS and LOVE you feel. DWELL in how BLESSED you are RIGHT NOW because you are BLESSED, BEAUTIFUL, and FULL of GREAT POTENTIAL.

You have activated your LIMITLESS potential when you are dwelling in good thoughts because GOOD THOUGHTS stimulate GOOD EMOTIONS! Furthermore, you should be able to really FEEL the difference in how the anger-based, SINFUL THOUGHTS FILLED you INTERNALLY (EMOTIONALLY) versus how the LOVE-BASED, GOOD THOUGHTS FILLED you INTERNALLY (EMOTIONALLY)!

Public Enemy #1

Here is a brief introduction to YOUR ENEMIES (SINFUL EMOTIONS) who want to ROB YOU of your love, hope, happiness, peace, joy, and fulfillment.
(In my boxing commentator voice), “In the red corner, straight out of darkness, standing UNDEFEATED in fading light, the love killing, hope draining, happiness hindering, peace eradicating, joy ruining, solution destroying, and the source of all sin; ladies and gentlemen, YOUR PUBLIC ENEMY #1— “IGNORANCE OF LOVE!”
“Ignorance of Love” can be more thoroughly defined as “not being aware of where the true source of love resides.” The true source of LOVE is found from WITHIN YOURSELF, and your Public Enemy #1, Ignorance of Love, wants to keep you blinded from that fact because if you do not REALIZE that your true love, happiness, peace, love, joy, and fulfillment are found from within yourself, then you will surely go search for these positive emotions in external things (yes, this includes external people). In a nut shell, this is where the sins of lust, vanity, and external addictions (physical vices) come into play because external pleasures may fill you with these good emotions in the short-term, but will easily cause you to create the sinful habit of becoming dependent on these external things for your INTERNAL RICHES (LOVE, PEACE, JOY, FULFILLMENT) that can only be found from WITHIN yourself. This will leave you weak and vulnerable because external circumstances may change, but your internal circumstances are always within your control. Your internal circumstances are always within your control because you can always CHANGE YOUR MIND and THINK BETTER THOUGHTS for yourself!

Other “Class A Emotional Sins”
Living in ANGER
Living in FEAR
Living in SELF-DOUBT
COMPLAINING about things you cannot control

10 Unknown” Sins
1) Gossip (Meaningless or Empty Speech)
2) Not being an ACTIVE LISTENER
3) Reactively speaking BEFORE THINKING
4) Not living by YOUR WORD
5) Arguments
6) Finding JOY and ENTERTAINMENT in talking about other peoples’ imperfections
7) Being TOO SILENT when you are PEACEFUL and NOT COMMUNICATING what you want when you are PEACEFUL
8) Eavesdropping
9) Not having GOOD GOALS
10) Not thinking for yourself

For more information on sinful emotions and how you can learn to control and use them for your benefit, check out: iSin: Upgrade To Life 2.0.

Jul 09

Refining the Concept of God

By shaydawkins | Redifining Religion

As discussed in the introduction of the Redefining Religion blog post category, the goal of the Redefining Religion content is to redefine common religious concepts, specifically in regards to the religion of Christianity–the religion I, Shay Dawkins, am all too familiar with from growing up in the heart of the Bible Belt (Birmingham, Alabama).  For this article, “Refining the Concept of God,” I am addressing all religious followers in all religious belief systems, believers of anti-religious belief systems (i.e. atheists), and anyone who finds themselves in between (i.e. agnostics). This article is addressed to humanity in its entirety.
To redefine religion in the more beneficial and common sense way (based in old fashioned logic and reason) I will, I feel the first concept that must be addressed is the “concept of God.” In order to truly understand who God is and what God represents, here are three literal aspects of God that I feel are most important to emphasize.


Regardless of your belief system, I feel most of us can agree that God cannot be seen physically or literally (i.e. I cannot go type in a physical address into my GPS and drive to a destination that will enable me to physically “see God”). Thus, God is not physical yet this does not mean “God is not real.” There are many EMOTIONS we cannot see, but we know are real because we can FEEL them. For example, you can’t physically see “love or happiness” yet you can feel those emotions; you can’t physically see “hate or anger,” but you can truly feel those emotions too. For my argument, let’s perceive God in the same context we perceive emotions in that we cannot “see emotions,” but we can “feel emotions.”


Regardless of your belief system, I feel most us can agree that if a person where to “attain access to God,” then this person would be “special” or “not your average Joe.” For my logical argument, I feel “natural” should be defined as “living in NATURAL, NEGATIVE emotions” (i.e. fear, anger, agony, hate, sorrow, disappointment, etc.). Thus, to “live in God” would be to live in “SUPERNATURAL, POSITIVE emotions” (i.e. courage, peace, joy, love, hope, fulfillment, etc.). These POSITIVE emotions are “SUPERNATURAL” because they are not natural; they are the opposite of the “NATURAL, NEGATIVE emotions.”


The “seed of God” or “potential for POSITIVE, SUPERNATURAL emotions” dwells WITHIN all of those who have control of their thoughts because an individual’s emotions are generated, first and foremost, from their thoughts. Regardless of your belief system, I feel we all can agree that every individual has the ability to “change their mind” at any point. Thus, to activate GOD (POSITIVE EMOTIONS) a person must simply train their mind to THINK BETTER. This enables “GOD (POSITIVE EMOTIONS)” to become relevant and accessible to everyone, no matter where you are located or what you are doing in the world. 

Feel free to click the following highlighted link, “Improve Your EQ,” to visit another article of mine that provides a quick exercise showing how your thoughts generate your emotions.  

Verses iterating that God dwells within (there are many more):

1 Corinthians 3: 16 KJV
16Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwells IN YOU

1 Corinthians 6: 19 NIV
19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is IN YOU, whom you have received from God?

John 14: 10 NIV
10Don’t you believe that I am in the Father, and that the Father is in me? The words I say to you are not just my own. Rather, it is the Father, LIVING IN ME, who is doing his work.

In conclusion, I’d love to hear your thoughts regarding the material discussed. Whether you agree or disagree is irrelevant, Intellectual Rebel is a hub of open discourse. So, I urge you to voice your unique thoughts or just comment with a simple “agree,” “disagree,” or “somewhere in between.” Thank you and have a blessed day!

P.S. I do send out the occasional free gift 🎁 for good feedback, especially for those who follow this blog!

Feb 14

Finding True Love (2.0 Version)

By shaydawkins | Mental & Emotional Health , Relationships

Five years ago, I published this article, 3 Days for Find True Love Any Time of the Year, regarding my first book, and this article was where I felt my writing began to “transition” and go up a notch to what eventually would become iSin, my recently published book. (Shhhhh… don’t tell anyone, but iSin is only .99 for just this week on my website via using the promo code “Launch” (there is a link at the very bottom of the page)– and this is my first and last shameless plug).  Over the past five years, I have grown SOOOOOO MUCH personally (from my many “mistakes” and successes) and as a writer so now I will revisit that article, expand on it, get a little deep,  and most importantly HAVE SOME FUN– SO MUCH FUN– that this post ENRICHES anyone who takes the time to read it; oh, and if you didn’t know my writing style is unique, fun, and candid; so, get ready for an experience!

Hop on board and strap yourself in because we are about to take a little RIDE! 


*All Songs Suggested for this article can be found on my Spotify Playlist entitled “Finding True Love” (Search: “Shay.Dawkins” on Spotify)

Song: “I’m a Believer” -The Monkees


I’m a BELIEVER in the POWER of an intelligent, informed MIND via science, logic, and reason YET I am also a BELIEVER in the POWER of emotional intelligence via spirituality, practicing good (solution-focused) thoughts, and learning to generate good, love-based EMOTIONS.  I am a BELIEVER in protecting our environment, the freedom for ALL to LOVE and MARRY who they so choose YET I am also a BELIEVER in making a dollar via FREE MARKETS, providing people with opportunity (jobs) to support themselves, and although I BELIEVE in the freedom for ALL to LOVE, BE WITH, and MARRY who they so choose, I DO NOT BELIEVE in “promoting” my or anyone’s sexual orientation as the “RIGHT WAY” and “shoving an agenda down other peoples’ throats” on an “end all-be all” basis.

I’m a BELIEVER in being aware of “external” circumstances, problems, and political candidates whose decisions I may or may not agree with YET I BELIEVE that your and my INTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES are much more IMPORTANT, PERTINENT, and POWERFUL than any external circumstances.  I BELIEVE in discussing issues (problems) with the GOAL to understand and SOLVE those problems.  I BELIEVE in DISAGREEING and DISAGREEING so PASSIONATELY that I FIND GOOD, LOGICAL REASONS to BACK UP the BELIEFS I AM PASSIONATE about.  I BELIEVE that it is OK to naturally “not like” some individuals you will come across YET I ALSO BELIEVE that LOVE (TRUE LOVE found from within) is MORE IMPORTANT and that ARGUMENTS in and of themselves are WRONG and BAD (SINFUL).  I BELIEVE that EVERY PERSON should LOVE THEMSELVES FIRST and BE SELFISH enough to find their love, peace, and joy from WITHIN THEMSELVES YET I BELIEVE and KNOW from first-hand experience that TO LOVE YOURSELF you must LOVE and CARE for others as a LIFE BUILT for LONG-TERM SUCCESS both INTERNALLY (happiness, peace, love, and joy) and EXTERNALLY (financially, social status, and nice materialistic things) can only be attained with a STRONG TEAM that YOU BUILD around you through the HARD WORK of CHOOSING LOVE– TOUGH LOVE, REAL LOVE, COMPASSIONATE LOVE, CARING LOVE– on that darkest day when your relationship WILL BE put to the ultimate test!




What is really real?  A dog can smell things that we (as humans) can’t; just because we can’t smell what a dog smells, then does that mean those smells don’t exist?  You can’t see anger, but you sure as hell can FEEL IT!  You can’t see love, but (oh man) you can FEEL IT!  You can’t see disappointment, but you can definitely can FEEL IT!  You can’t see happiness, but you can FEEL IT!  So, if we can’t see anger, love, disappointment, and happiness in a “physical form,” then does that mean these EMOTIONS do not exist?

What if I told you there was a logical way to manipulate your EMOTIONS?  What if I told you that REALEST things in this life experience are not the things you can physically SEE, but are the EMOTIONS you and I can only FEEL?  What if there was a point where spirituality and logic meshed together as ONE?  What if you REALLY are CREATING YOUR LIFE via what you are predominately FEELING– FILLING YOURSELF WITH?!  What if I told you there was a SOLE SOURCE you could TAP INTO any time, any place, and anywhere that would enable you to FIND YOUR ANSWERS, FULFILL YOU, EMPOWER YOU, and ENERGIZE YOU to the point where you may find it hard to sleep because you are FILLED with so much PASSION, MEANING, PURPOSE, and EXCITEMENT for YOUR LIFE?!

Well, the GOOD NEWS is that THERE IS an EASY, SIMPLE SOLUTION that will enable you to manipulate your emotions and create your life however you see fit; this ONE SOLE SOURCE will provide you INTERNALLY with the following: TRUE LOVE, answers, fulfillment, empowerment, energy, passion, meaning, purpose, and excitement. The “BAD” NEWS is that IT’S EXTREMELY HARD WORK!  Now, before I go any further, I do not want to sugar coat what I am about to discuss because I believe in mentioning the UGLY aspects upfront of choosing to tap into this source of TRUE LOVE.


Song: “Energy” -Drake

The Ugly Truth

Symptoms you may experience, if you make the choice to FIND TRUE LOVE:

  1. “The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.” -Unknown
    This source of true love will enable you to see the truth, and the truth is hard to handle at first because the truth is blunt and apparent; hence, some family and “friends” you previously thought “had your back” may betray you and may not like the “new you.”  Misery loves company, BUT HAPPY PEOPLE LIKE HAPPY PEOPLE.  If this occurs to you, then YOU WILL HAVE THE CHOICE TO PERCEIVE some people being “cut out of your life” as “bad”  because “things are falling a part” OR you can perceive it as “good” because “the small cancers are being removed from your life” and “better things are falling together.”
  2. “GREAT progress is almost always met with GREAT resistance.” -Shay Dawkins You very likely will begin to QUESTION ANYTHING and EVERYTHING.  It is much easier to stay asleep and “keep going through the motions,” than it is to WAKE UP and begin to see things and people for who they truly are (internally).  I discuss how to develop an “Internal Raydar” throughout iSin which is much like “feeling the force” (for any Star Wars fans), and as you develop this “Internal Raydar” you will become “vibe sensitive” or “consciously sensitive to the energy around you” which will give you the ability to feel the “negative energy (darkness)” residing within people and in certain places (situations) which sounds cool (it is cool), because you will be able to avoid bad situations.  However, (at first) you may be “misunderstood” by those who don’t know the “new you” yet.  This can potentially cause you to FEEL ALONE and experience loneliness.  If (and more than likely when) this happens to you, then YOU WILL HAVE THE CHOICE TO PERCEIVE it as “bad,” because (no matter what anyone says) no one likes to FEEL ALONE OR you can perceive it as “good” because you are simply experiencing “growing pains” in that you are growing, learning, and progressing which is a GOOD THING!  Let me emphasize that there is a BIG difference between being alone (having “You Time”) and FEELING ALONE.  By the way, I still battle this “lonely aspect” to some degree, but the occurrences I deal with have dwindled down to extremely rare, “close to extinct” occurrences.  Lastly, no that you are NOT ALONE– your LOVE, PEACE, and JOY are always within you and you WILL NEVER LOSE (INTERNALLY) as long as you REALIZE YOUR GREAT POTENTAL, KEEP MOVING FORWARD, and DON’T GIVE UP!  Furthermore, this iSin Blog and I, personally, am here.  Most of the time when a person “FEELS ALONE” the quickest solution is to simply talk to someone and “vent your emotions” to get what is bothering you OUT OF YOU!  You can feel free to message me, comment on the blog, and reach out to me– I do have somewhat of a life away from iSin (haha)) and can’t guarantee how quickly I will respond, but I will.  Over time, there will be a community of people here on the iSin Blog (Community) that you can “lean on” and simply talk to, if and when you need it.
  3. “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” -Jesus

    If and when you experience point #1 and are “feeling betrayed” or “being done wrong,” then YOU WILL HAVE THE CHOICE to find the strength to let those people LEAVE while FORGIVING THEM, simultaneously; MOST IMPORTANTLY, you do not forgive them for them as you forgive them FOR YOU!  A lot of people who realize the truth are emotionally intelligent and intelligent overall, but knowing the truth and “realizing wrong” can easily lead to LIVING IN ANGER (WRATH).  Trust me, it’s taken me a LONG TIME to get to where I am today in that 95% of the time I now am able to USE “FEELING ANGRY” as a “positive tool” for myself via “focusing the high energy of anger” into simply “focused energy,” but it has been a long, winding road to get to this point.  If and when you feel yourself getting angry too often, then there are some simple tools that are EASY to practice, but it is hard to create the habit of remembering to do them when anger has the best of you.  One tool is to create the thought (mind frame) of “picking your battles (Is the situation really that important?),” and another tool is to simply find something or someone to appreciate and be thankful for.


Song: “Hero” -Mariah Carey

The Source: F.L.Y.

The EASY, SIMPLE SOLUTION that will enable you to manipulate your emotions, create your life however you see fit, and provide you INTERNALLY with TRUE LOVE, answers, fulfillment, empowerment, energy, passion, meaning, purpose, and excitement is to

First Love Yourself

What does this really mean though?
In a nutshell, this means to realize the POWER OF YOUR THOUGHTS because YOUR THOUGHTS GENERATE YOUR EMOTIONS and YOUR EMOTIONS cause you to FEEL which causes you to be “FILLED WITH” whatever YOU ARE FEELING.  If you go back to the previous section, then look where I bolded “YOU WILL HAVE THE CHOICE” when pertaining to how you can respond to a negative, external circumstance. YOU always HAVE A CHOICE to CHANGE YOUR MIND when it comes to PERCEIVING EXTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES.  You can CHOOSE to “be a victim of EXTERNAL circumstances and let your circumstances define you” OR you can CHOOSE to be a “CREATOR of YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES and define your circumstances.”

10 Good Thinking Habits
(Excerpt from the iSin Chapter, “Love Your Mind”)

“To be made new in the attitude and thoughts of your mind.” –Ephesians 4:23

1)  Constantly listen to music that makes you FEEL GOOD. Let me reiterate that your DAY will be a LOT MORE FUN with MUSIC, especially good MUSIC that you ENJOY!

2)  Constantly find things to appreciate and say “thank you” to.

3)  Constantly find things that MAKE YOU LAUGH.

4)  Watch inspirational videos that get you “HYPED” and build your energy.

5)  Surround yourself with people who “build you up (build your energy)” and enable you to DWELL on GOOD.

6)  Find multiple “carrot sticks” (as mentioned in a previous chapter) or “fellowship events” that break up the monotony of your week and give you something to look forward to every week.

7)  Actively think to yourself, “How can I ENJOY this PHENOMENAL day with BOUNDLESS OPPORTUNITY to the ABSOLUTE FULLEST?!?!?”

8)  Find someone to give an honest compliment too. Making others feel good will essentially make you feel good (most of the time).

9)  If angry, find a productive way to vent such as working out, writing, etc.; transform the high energy of anger into productive energy for you that serves you.

10)  Constantly find and dwell on small “wins” you have accomplished

BE CRAZY enough to HAVE FUN!
Feb 03


By shaydawkins | Mental & Emotional Health

BE CRAZY enough to HAVE FUN!

Founder, Shay Dawkins, on Halloween

Song: “Crazy B*tch” -Buckcherry

Be CrAzY!

F*ck being “normal!”  You should be CRAZY enough to WANT BETTER, BE CRAZY enough to WANT MORE out of your life, BE CRAZY enough to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, BE CRAZY enough to TALK ABOUT YOUR IDEAS, BE CRAZY enough to THINK for YOURSELF, BE CRAZY enough to BELIEVE in your “gut feelings,” BE CRAZY enough to realize that a “status quo” mind frame will lead to a “status quo” life, BE CRAZY enough to DREAM, and EVEN BE CRAZIER to GO AFTER those DREAMS with EVERY OUNCE of EFFORT YOU’VE GOT!  BE THAT F*CKING CRAZY!

Here is QUICK TEST to see if you have been LIVING or EXISTING:

 If you died tomorrow, then could you honestly say you experienced everything your heart desires?  Were you CRAZY enough to visit all of the places you yearned to visit?  Were you CRAZY enough to SHOW those you love that you LOVE them?  Were you CRAZY enough to LIVE YOUR LIFE to the FULLEST?  Were you CRAZY enough to LOVE those you LOVE ALL OUT with no LIMITS?  Were you a CRAZY person who LIVED or were you a “normal, robot” who EXISTED?

You should know that “YOLO (You Only Live Once)” is NOT TRUE (I knew there was some reason I never was fond of “YOLO” when it was popular) yet “YODO (You Only Die Once)” is TRUE!  Just because a person is breathing does not mean that person is LIVING.  Many people “breathe and EXIST” yet few people are CRAZY ENOUGH to LIVE!  Now, I (personally) do not have anything against “normal” people, but I AM EMBRACING and PROMOTING for you to be “CRAZY” in the above described ways.  I AM stating that it is BETTER to be “a little TOO CRAZY” than to be “a little TOO NORMAL (BORING)!”  I AM stating that it is BETTER to THRIVE than to simply EXIST and SURVIVE!  I AM stating that it is better to GET IN THE GAME– swing and “strike out”– shoot and miss — try and “fail”– but GET YOUR ASS OFF THE SIDELINES and SWING, SHOOT, TRY, FAIL, SWING AGAIN, SHOOT AGAIN, TRY AGAIN, and FAIL AGAIN because you ONLY LOSE if YOU QUIT or if you NEVER GET YOUR ASS OFF THE SIDELINES and INTO THE GAME!


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